When it comes to romantic gestures and kneeling down, a specific thought comes to mind. Can you guess? …Yes that is it. A marriage proposal.
Today, marriage proposals are seen as the apex of a relationship, especially for the females. As they attain marriageable age, they become imparted with a particular thought of how they want their proposals to go. In their heads, they have the perfect idea and thoughts. Every detail is well thought out. He’ll take us some place sentimental, I’ll have no clue about what’s going on, my friends will be hiding around the corner and if possible my family. Then he’ll get down on one knee and amidst this, tears of joy will flow down my cheeks as I’ll promptly say yes.
For many people, the show is unnecessary and also foreign. Our culture does not make provision for such activities.
Many question the act of kneeling down. Can we not have proposals without the man kneeling down? Does this prove that he loves and cares more when he kneels?
Kneeling or not kneeling does not guarantee a happy marriage and for the most part, proposals nowadays have turned into social media parades. Competitions on who gets the best and most expensive ring. Whose nails weren’t properly done and what the couple wear.
Brides.com states that ‘the tradition of a man (or woman) proposing on one knee comes from medieval knights bowing before noblewomen. Upon getting down on one knee, the proposer will then ask their partner for their hand in marriage with the phrase “Will you marry me?”
The bended knee expectation can sometimes create disappointments when the male folks don’t seem to be interested and proposes in some other way, bearing in mind that the male mind and the female’s are wired diffferently.
Below are some none kneeling proposal stories I came across.
‘My boyfriend was outside my house, he called me to come out and when I did, he gave me two rings. He asked me to test both and pick the most suitable, which I did. Next thing he said was ok fine, next week I will come and see your people’.
Bravo I’ld say the man had no time to waste, he saw what he wanted and went for it. You could term it pride but I think it worked for them and that is all that matters.
“I woke up one morning and he just called said I intend seeing your family soon to ask for your hand in marriage what do you think? And that was it. I gave my answer and he came.”
This is pretty bold and matured too. He asked her opinion which is good thing.
When people think about proposals, they are clouded by fantasies and when these proposals don’t balance up, they bad mouth it. What they fail to realize is that in as much as a proposal especially public proposals are made as romantic gestures to make our partners feel loved, they pressure the individual being approached to say yes. If the individual is not ready, he/she thinks about the consequence and the people watching. It’s extremely agonizing for everybody in the event that it doesn’t go the manner in which we expect. For the ones who need to say no, for the one who feels embarrassed, and for any open crowd expecting a yes.
Whether you choose to kneel or not, you are required to ask for her hand in marriage from her family too.